I am now a mother of two.
Anna Rose joined us almost a month ago, and life has been filled with moments of bliss, exhaustion, and every range of emotion in between.
There is more love and more challenges. I’m searching for a set of operating instructions* on how to create a harmonious existence with a toddler and a newborn, while honoring myself, and my husband. Does such a thing exist?
I suspect I will have to write my own…as I go along.
The first section of this instruction booklet will be healing practices to engage in daily. These practices have become essential.
arranging flowers around the house // lighting candles // meditating (if only for a minute) // taking baths // yoga // napping // drinking cups of tea // eating too much chocolate // processing through writing // listening to beautiful music // reading poetry //
These acts have helped me hold onto myself, which of course is the hardest thing to do when everything else is pulling me and crying (literally) for my attention.
Wondering what part of this lovely puzzle I will figure out next… There is certainly a lot to fit together. Advice from seasoned professionals welcome.
Patience + forgiveness, extremely necessary.
*This phrase was prompted from the title of Anne Lamott’s book Operating Instructions : A Journal of my Son’s First Year – which I am currently loving.Post a comment
A constant thread of my writing is taking time to craft your intentions – to enjoy rituals that connect to yourself so you can ultimately create the life that you wish to live. The one where you feel fully expressed and are able to be the truest form of yourself – which is what I am continuously working on.
It can be helpful to look back before you glance ahead. Celebrate all that was, forgive all that wasn’t so you can forge ahead clearly. Here is a little ritual to consciously transition from one year to the next.
Get out your journal, or your favorite colored pieces of paper, make them beautiful, or burn them when you are complete… Make it your own – but sit with each guideline.
#1. Record what happened in 2015.
What was it filled up with? Little moments, big moments, keep an ongoing list to mark the happenings of this year. Nothing too big or small. Go through your memory month by month.
EX: I started hosting pop up yoga classes // Luca turned 1! // Spent time visiting Oma & Opa // We moved // I turned 30 // Spent lots of time in coffee shops // Hosted 2 mala making workshops // etc…
#2. Record what didn’t happen in 2015, that perhaps you wished would have.
Where there any goals you wanted to reach? Ideas you had but were never were truly born? Trips or classes you never took…?
EX: I never made a Charm & Magic signature kit that I brainstormed a lot about // I never learned Italian… or took an art class // I didn’t make as much money as I would have liked // etc…
#3. Honor both lists.
Really, look at all existed in this year – so many successes, surprises, little moments, perhaps some that were planned or some that were better than you could have ever planned. Reflect on the fullness + abundance in you all created and soak it in.
Then FORGIVE all that didn’t happen. All the plans + ideas you set out with this new year to complete. This might take extra journaling, or burning, or dancing … but you must forgive so you can release.
#4. Now make some wishes.
Some heartfelt ones. This might take a moment of silence before you begin, or asking your guides above. Leave your mind out of it + all the “shoulds” rest on the side. Instead invite your heart to to the talking. Write and see what pours out. How do you want to feel? How do you want to spend your days? What would be so magnificent? What if you allowed _______ to be possible… See what pours out.
EX: I wish to expand. I wish to step fully into my offerings. I wish to feel like a divine goddess – confident + creative. I wish for trust + compassion to envelope my days, along with naps, snuggles, belly laughs and consistent time to reflect on the charm & magic that exists in my life.
Now you have a wish to guide you into the new year. You can keep it present as you navigate the days of 2016 and refer to it often, or rip it up and release it into the future. You decide. I can’t wait to see how it all unfolds for you. :)Post a comment
We are officially in the season of light and get to enjoy one extra minute of daylight each day. It’s a gorgeous time to leave behind what we no longer need in the darkness. Especially as we soon welcome the new year.
I find I am fully able to release when I forgive.
So I sat with my journal (a current treasured morning ritual) and forgave myself for all the times :
I compared + despaired + sat in judgement // For when I felt like I had to prove something + put the pressure on in all the wrong ways // For when I didn’t know how to focus, and wasted my energy on silly, draining things.
So then I could confidently release:
The constant doubt of my worth + value // The need to seek external validation // The habit of shrinking to maintain the illusion of safety // Indulging in unsatisfying distractions // GUILT – especially all things mom related.
And of course like everything… the release will be a work in progress. And I will forgive myself when I see myself in the same old pattern, I’m ready to move on from.
An Invitation : Think about some habits / patterns / illusions that you are ready to leave in the darkness, and truly forgive yourself for the time that you have spent entertaining whatever it is. Then boldly declare that you are finished – so that you can create space for what you’d like to invite in next.
A pen + paper will help this process along, and lighting a candle can never hurt.
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Savoring quiet time in front of the Christmas tree.
Doing my best to not get tangled into the perfect images + endless lists of this season. So that I do not feel like I am falling short of every expectation that can feel so real at this time of year. I’m catching myself, and constantly reminding myself all it has to be is a true expression of my heart.
What keeps this season sacred is the rhythm of time : time to be together, time to reflect, time to get quiet, time to celebrate, and time to clarify intentions:
My intention :
I want to feel grounded + light, rooted in generosity + receptivity. Letting my actions be a joyful expression of myself and my values. I want to laugh until my belly hurts. I want to create a space where people can connect to themselves. I want daily time to reflect with hot chocolate, marshmallows, a beautiful blanket, and inspiring things to read. I want to create an inspired approach to 2016. I want to nap – daily. I want to give it all away.
And how perfect, that it all will culminate with a full moon on Christmas Day!
A true celebration of light.Post a comment
I started Charm & Magic almost 2 years ago – two weeks before my son was born.
Now, with about a month before the next baby comes, I have a new addition to the Charm & Magic collection… full sized malas. These necklaces are made with 108 larger beads that you can easily use for meditation + prayer. They are a delight to hold as you repeat a mantra, or wear as a reminder of a greater intention.
One mala is called Grounded Grace, but they all embody that essence : earthy colors mixed with heavenly ones, playful + asymmetrical with pockets of sparkle – all lovingly strung on silk.
These would be a great gift for any friends, sisters, moms, daughters, yoga teachers, (or yourself) … that appreciate beauty + accessing their inner calm. These malas are a beautiful tool to ground + guide you as you connect to yourself and move fluidly + ease-fully towards what you are most wanting. Plus a portion of your purchase will go towards Girls on Fire… and well, you can’t beat supporting a meaningful cause while you shop!Post a comment
In the post Thanksgiving haze, things feel quiet and slow. Perfect conditions for doubt and feeling like whatever I’m doing isn’t enough to sneak in.
I have been writing daily prayers, or wishes, which have been a helpful tool. This practice was inspired by my teacher Amanda Harding, who weaves together deliciously thoughtful + meaningful prayers that she so generously shares.
This was today’s:
Allow me to judge less, and forgive myself when I forget.
Let me be guided + reminded there is time for it all – as long as JOY is the utmost concern.
Let me remember to play, and to take myself and my work WAY less seriously.
Let me be free to make things.
Let me remember magic lives in connection, support me as I reach out, especially when I’d rather not reach at all.
Writing it down, handing it off, asking for help. Sometimes I remember what I wrote, other times I need to read it again and again. But at least it is there – when I choose to remember.Post a comment
I awoke to these words so generously shared from a friend from a far:
“When tragedy strikes afar or hits closer to home, we feel it. In harsh realities, we’re exposed, raw and uncertain.
It’s during these hard times that we really need the softness of craft. To be wrapped in the embrace of grandmother’s quilt, to feel protected from the elements in a hand knit sweater, to caress a mug thrown by someone else’s hand on a potter’s wheel. These simple things reconnect us to our humanity and remind us of the goodness and potential of people.
I don’t think it is naive to turn to crafting and making or seeking out beauty. It is vital.
Piecing a quilt isn’t just about sewing fabric, it’s time to process emotions and patch together our feelings. A knitted sweater is an entanglement of love that our child wears when we can’t always be by his side. These things matter deeply. One stitch at a time, we can shape our surroundings.
We can control what we make — and what we do with it.”
This was so affirming, after reading the paper in tears this weekend, as I processed all the pain in this world. I couldn’t help but feel helpless + like the world was doomed.
Taking time to make things, to create beauty is a necessary practice, and it can look like anything.
I have been inserting this slice of beauty in my days lately : lavender oil behind my ears, listening to Essie Jain (such peaceful music!), holding onto my mala and repeating a mantra, while lying on the couch for 15 minutes. A divine indulgence of beauty and rest, of allowing instead of pushing.
Create moments of beauty. Finding moments to uplift your spirit.
Start here :
“I do wonder, how some people, who upon seeing gorgeous, billowing cumulus clouds floating effortlessly overhead, don’t just want to explode with joy.
Or who, upon seeing a mighty old oak tree, don’t run right up to it wildly screaming, “I love you!”
Or who, upon being caught in the rain, don’t blush as each drop gently kisses their skin.
Or who, upon gazing at a star-filled night, aren’t paralyzed with awe.
Or who, upon seeing their reflection in a pond, don’t cry the happiest of tears.
Do you know what I mean?”
– The Universe (Mike Dooley)Post a comment
Lately my desire to make things has heightened.
It’s so strong that when I don’t have any time to create anything I become irritable + unpleasant.
Making things has become my medicine. Some things I make are great, others are not. But the time I spend in my Charm & Magic headquarters leaves me feeling balanced and whole, and I’ve had the incredible gift of dedicating consistent time to my work.
I also listened to Big Magic, by Elizabeth Gilbert (READ IT!) which propelled me even further into honoring this intense desire to create. I felt (and still feel) that if I didn’t express myself creatively – I didn’t feel fully alive, and I don’t like that feeling.
So that has all lead to this new Charm & Magic collection : elegant, playful + mystical – to help ground and guide you as you connect to yourself.
Visit the shop here and see if anything catches your eye.
May you find your own unique ways to express yourself + make something beautiful. Coloring is a wonderful place to begin.Post a comment
Because you are plenty.
Your presence is your gold.
Your breath soothes + the space you create heals.
Gratitude is your divine elixir, so let your gratitude rest and feel your being soften.
Self compassion is a necessary ingredient in every day. Some days require an extra heaping, so apply generously.
Continue to layer awareness in, and let perfection go.
Again, and again.Post a comment
I love making mini malas, and I especially love designing them with someone’s vision + desires in mind. I have made some custom malas for a few wonderful people, and my heart explodes when I hear what they have to say when their unique piece lands in there hands.
“I really cant describe how much I love my mini mala. I’m not a spiritual person at all, but I kinda felt something when I held it. I definitely felt connected to it and like it gave me some sort of spiritual feeling and calmness.”
– Esta Tonkin of Wild Weka
“…the intention I set for my mala (to lean into my intuition more) seems to be coming true! Since wearing it, I’ve found a professional intuitive online who I really clicked with and had a session with her last week. After our session, she asked for my permisson to use our call for her training program, and as a trade, offered me free access to an online course (she sells for lots of money) to develop one’s psychic skills.I create one step – and the the universe paves the next 2 steps for me.”
– Danielle van de Kemmenade of Heart Work
“I was so honored to receive something this beautiful. I kept these pearls from a tiny island off the coast of Colombia for so many years until I saw your work and knew that I could put them in the right hands. I told you I dreamt of wearing moonlight, and that is exactly how it feels when I drape them around my neck.”
– Susanna Harwood Rubin, Yoga Teacher. Writer. Artist
“My stunning mini mala started working it’s magic right away from the moment I began to unwrap the thoughtful, gorgeous packaging! I definitely feel energized by wearing my mini mala and remember to be grounded just by touching it or looking at it. I feel like it packs so much beauty, wisdom and inspiration, and I don’t know if they are addictive, but I already want a second one!!”
– Berynes Sosa – A most extraordinary teacher
Each piece is as unique as the person who sparked its creation, and serves them in both a very real + magical way.
If you have a vision, some special beads or a charm, or are just wanting something designed specifically for you with your desires in mind – let’s make something!
You can begin here.Post a comment